I’m Not “Lucky” That My Husband Treats Me Right

I have an amazing husband, and I love him more than anything in this world. But I am not lucky.

He listens to me when I speak. He’s there for me whenever I need him. He puts me first, and he supports me in everything that I do. But I am not lucky.

He even opens the door for me. He puts genuine thought in to our relationship, and thinks of me first. He gets me thoughtful gifts for our anniversary, and flowers just because. He sings with me in the car, and loves me with all his heart. But I am not lucky, but everyone tells me that I am.

I’m sure that people are even reading this right now and thinking, “She is lucky, and she sounds like a brat for thinking otherwise.”

I assure you that I am not, because I listen to my husband when he speaks. I’m there for him whenever he needs me. I put him first and support him in everything that he does. But he is not lucky.

If I reach the door before he does, I open it for him. I put genuine thought in to our relationship, and always think of him first. I get him thoughtful gifts for our anniversary, and cook him his favorite dinners just because. I watch football with him every Sunday, and I love him with all my heart. But he is not lucky, and aside from family members, nobody has ever told him that he is.

Yet I am told all the time that I am the luckiest woman in the world and I’ve just never understood that, except now I think I might. People compliment him for treating me right, because he’s a man. And for some reason, we live in a world where a man is not expected to be good or kind, but a woman always is.

Please don’t get me wrong either, I appreciate my husband and everything that he does for me, but I’m not lucky because he treats me right.

He’s lucky that he treats me right, because if he didn’t then he wouldn’t be my husband.

The problem with saying that I am, is that it tells other women that they also must get “lucky” to find a man who treats them right, and that couldn’t be further from the truth. Good men are out there and you just have to be patient and wait for one to come along.

It wasn’t luck that got me my husband. I waited for him. I waited for a man who treated me right. I didn’t settle for someone who treated me like shit. I didn’t even settle for someone who treated me “okay.” I waited for someone who treated me the way I deserve to be treated. I waited for someone who treats me the way that I treat him, and then I dated him for 5 years so I was positive that he was the type of person he claimed to be.

So to all you amazing women out there, and amazing men, never let anyone tell you that you are lucky for being treated with respect because you aren’t. You deserve it, and if you settle for anything less, then you’re doing a disservice to yourself because the person you’re with simply doesn’t deserve you.

You can tell my husband, and I, both, that we’re lucky to have love in our life, and you can definitely tell us we’re lucky to have found each other in this crazy world where people consider a woman lucky to find a man who actually treats her the way any decent human should be treated. But don’t tell me I’m lucky because my husband treats me right, and don’t tell him either, because neither of us deserve a compliment for doing what we’re supposed to do, and we don’t want one.

We love each other, and you treat the person you love with respect. You listen to them when they speak. You support them in everything that they do. You put genuine thought in to your relationship, and you always put each other first, because you love each other with all your heart.

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32 Comments Add yours

  1. D'Ana Joi says:

    could. not. agree. more. ❤

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Glad you relate!! Thank you for reading 😊😊

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  2. J | Beauty's Expert Amateur says:

    Oh damn girl. I love this and you are spot on. The “lucky” tag just implies that we should expect to be treated like shit and feel grateful for anything better that comes along. Such bs, if you ask me. I love this post a lot xx

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Yes exactly. We can totally be grateful, without being called lucky. Thank you!!

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    2. kedawithani says:

      right…it really grinds my gears how women are made to believe it is a gift or something for a man to treat them right…ughhhh… “oh you are so lucky that he treats you well…” grrr…

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      1. Scattered Scripturient says:

        Yes exactly!

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      2. J | Beauty's Expert Amateur says:

        Double standards are stupid

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  3. Geraldine says:

    I thought your reason would be envy or jealousy from other women. It was a good post.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Thank you!!

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  4. thewisegreek says:

    I agree! People who have that kind of relationship aren’t lucky, they just don’t put up with people who don’t treat them right. Therefore, all the bad people can be filtered out and it makes the good people easier to find.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Completely agree! Thank you 😊

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  5. Aasiyah says:

    Dang it, I ship you two so much!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Haha thank you ❤😊

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  6. dawnwairimu says:

    very well said. i agree, there are different expectations for women than men. keep up the good work.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Thank you!! I’m glad you enjoyed 😊😊

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  7. Anne Clare says:

    This is a lovely reminder of what a marriage (and any good relationship) should be 🙂 Thanks.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Awe that makes me happy to hear. Thank you so much for reading! 😊😊

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  8. Noni says:

    Reblogged this on Noni’s Bloggin’ … and commented:
    I agree wholeheartedly!

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Thank you!! 😊

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  9. Keith says:

    Great distinction. Everyone deserves to be treated right and with respect. I am a volunteer for an agency that helps homeless families, about a 1/3 of whom are leaving DV situations. Far too many think the man will change and pray that he does, but he will not. If anyone reading this is in a situation where the man is abusing the woman verbally or physically, find some help and get out. He will not change. Sorry for the sidebar.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Thank you for reading!
      No apology needed. I find that is very important and it’s great you volunteer to help people in those unfortunate situations, so I thank you.

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      1. Keith says:

        Thanks for your kind words of support. It sounds like you have a very healthy relationship with your spouse. It seems like you and he understand that relationships are hard work. Best wishes to the both of you. Keith

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  10. atticsister says:

    So true. The best advice I received on our wedding day was that every marriage is not a 50/50 proposition but a 100% situation. You must each give 100% of what you’d like to receive in order to actually receive that 100% back and make the union work in the long run. After 42 years of wedded bliss, I can wholeheartedly say it works. You must be “lucky” enough to learn this early enough to make a difference.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Yes that is amazing advice!! My husband and I have only been married for about a year. I hope that we can celebrate 42 years one day! ❤

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  11. I hear this alllll the time from my friends! Sometimes I even feel bad because they are all looking to me for some type of advice on how to get a good guy, or when they are all sitting around men-bashing I have no stories to offer up. It’s bizarre. The best advice is right before your eyes, know your worth and don’t settle for less. PREACH.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      I get the same exact thing! And I so relate to the men bashing and I just sit there so awkwardly thinking “uh my husband doesn’t do that so I can’t relate” 😂
      Yes, definitely most important thing to know you’re worth, and I’m glad you do!! Thank you for reading 😊

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  12. LisaDay says:

    An amazing post. And you are completely right. To a lifetime of happiness.

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Thank you!! I’m glad you enjoyed. Same to you 😊

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  13. So true! Loved this! I’ve also nominated you for the Real Neat Blog Award, check my recent post for more info! ❤️

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    1. Scattered Scripturient says:

      Awe thank you so much 😊😊

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