I Am Slowly Learning Not To Compare Myself To Every Single Person Around Me

I’m freeing myself.

From that overwhelming feeling of never being good enough. From that screaming voice inside my head that convinces me I’m unworthy. And from every threatening lie that persuades my mind into thinking I am in competition with all of those around me.

I am slowly learning that life isn’t a competition, or that at least it doesn’t have to be. I am learning that I don’t have to compare my body to the model I saw on Instagram. I don’t need to feel stupid because a friend makes more money than I do. And I do not need to view myself as less than I am because I am not who I want to be yet. 

I am slowly learning that my life is mine, and that other people’s lives are theirs, and that it’s okay that we’re all different people, in different places in life. I am learning that I don’t need to be in a race with any single person around me. I don’t need to love myself less because I envy someone I’m not. I am learning I can feel good about myself for my small accomplishments instead of tearing myself down for all of my failures.

I am slowly learning to shamelessly love me, and not because I am supposed to, but because I am easier to love than I ever used to believe. I can feel good about myself, even on the days I’m not the best version of myself. I can accomplish personal growth without tearing myself apart. I can learn from my mistakes and hold myself accountable for my actions without believing they are all that I am.

And finally, I am slowly getting better at believing all of this every single day. I am learning that it isn’t just okay to not be okay, but that it’s perfectly normal. I am learning that I am not perfect, but that nobody else is either. I am slowly learning that perfection means something is finished, and that I’d choose to keep living, growing, and loving over being perfect any day.

I am slowly learning that I am happy to be me.

And now I am free.

Or at least I’m as close as I can be.



10 Comments Add yours

  1. Michelle says:

    Great post 😊


    1. Thank you so much Michelle!


  2. Roy Lennic says:

    And that is one of the greatest lesson ever. It becomes much easier and so peaceful. I love your words. So amazing.


    1. I completely agree. Such a beautiful thing! Thank you very much. ❤


  3. Mona says:

    I am learning this too.. Though on a slower pace than you I guess. It took me lots of years to be a bit comfortable with who I am, how I look or what I do. I would love to be in love with myself completely… I haven’t reached my destination yet but at least I am on this path.. And that’s enough for now.
    Love the way you expressed your feelings. I could relate to it. 😊


    1. I think it’s a long journey that you have to work at every day, but the important thing is that you always keep working at it. And I am so happy you are. You deserve to be in love with you<3


  4. Aly, Such a kickstart to my morning. Thank you for this wonderful note.
    I am also trying to learn and adopt the same. I know it just doesn’t happen on its own .I have to teach myself and practice it daily. But, the first thing to learn is “I am enough” and all i need to do is be myself confidentally.


  5. Good enough is good. Just follow your heart to do things that make you happy.


  6. cabbieg says:

    By the time you get to be my age (that’s really, really old!) you’ve come to a place of self-forgiveness, of appreciation for the gifts you’ve been given and those you have bestowed upon the people you love. You come to realize the choices you made throughout your life may have felt random at the time and fraught with second-guesses, but in the end, they helped to shape you into the truly remarkable individual you have become. You begin to celebrate yourself and give thanks for all that you have learned about yourself during times of sorrow, times of rage and despair, seasons of loss and grief, intervals of incapacitating fear and self-loathing. You have somehow managed to survive the darkest moments and have come through them stronger, bolder, less fearful and more empowered than you ever believed you could be. And finally, you reach a joyful acceptance of things the way they are. I wish you all the best on your journey.


  7. This is an awesome post!!!


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